How to Start a Conversation With a Crush Over Text 2023

How to Start a Conversation With a Crush Over Text: When it comes to starting a conversation with an attractive person over text, there are several things you can do to make sure they respond and have a good time talking to you. The right words and tone are key if you want them to feel comfortable chatting with you, but don’t be afraid if they don’t respond right away!

How to Start a Conversation With a Crush Over Text

Ask them a question.

When you ask a question, it’s important to ask one that your crush can answer in a single sentence. If the conversation gets too long, they may get bored and end it without waiting for you to respond. You also want to make sure that your question is open-ended so they have room to talk about their answer. Finally, make sure you’re asking something you know they’ll be interested in talking about—if not, they’ll probably end up feeling like their time was wasted on the text exchange.

A good example of this would be asking them what their weekend plans are if they’re not busy or what kind of ice cream they like best if they do have plans (but don’t eat dairy). The more specific and detailed these questions are, the better chance there is for a good conversation between both parties!

Personalize your message to ease the tension.

A simple “Hey, do you want to meet up?” text can feel impersonal and overwhelming if you’re nervous about initiating a conversation with someone new. Instead of sending a generic opening line, personalize your message to make it more comfortable for both parties involved. Use their name in the first sentence of your text (if you know it), or simply explain that you’ve been thinking about them lately and would like to get together sometime soon. Once they respond positively, ask them about something specific that interests them—their day job or weekend plans are good conversation starters for this step—and then suggest meeting up for coffee right away. This way, even if they don’t have much time before heading out again, they’ll still be able to join in on some casual small talk before having an excuse not come along (or at least before making excuses).

Use an emoji to amp up their response and put a smile on their face.

Emojis are a great way to amp up their response and put a smile on their face. The right emoji can be used to convey emotion, show you’re paying attention, listening, or even sarcasm. Emojis can also be fun and lighthearted in nature. They are a great tool for any friend or romantic partner who needs to bring some levity into the conversation!

Compliment them, but be careful not to go overboard or you may seem disingenuous.

One of the best ways to get someone’s attention over text is by complimenting them. Compliments can be an effective strategy because they help build rapport, which is something you want to do with a crush. That said, there are some things you should keep in mind when giving compliments over text.

First, don’t go overboard! Don’t compliment them too much for no reason or for pretty much anything they do in their day-to-day life, especially if it’s something that doesn’t make sense out of context (e.g., “You’re so great at brushing your teeth”). It could come across as disingenuous if your compliments seem like they’re coming from nowhere and have no basis in reality (i.e., they don’t know what the heck you’re talking about).

Second: Be careful not to give a physical compliment that you wouldn’t normally say out loud or wouldn’t pay attention to if someone else gave it. For example: If someone has big ears but their ears aren’t even noticeable when talking face-to-face—and furthermore this person does not care about having small ears—then maybe don’t bring up how cute/adorable/pretty their ears look when texting them! If however, this person does care about having small ears then feel free! You get the idea…

Be sincere and vulnerable in your conversation starter.

  • Be sincere and vulnerable in your conversation starter.
  • Don’t use cheesy pick-up lines that don’t really mean anything.
  • Use genuine compliments that make the other person feel good about themselves.
  • Be open to connection by saying something like, “I’m glad we’re talking,” or “I’m having so much fun getting to know you!”

Ask them about their weekend plans or something you know they’re interested in.

If you’re having trouble coming up with a good opening line or have lost your way in the conversation, ask them about their weekend plans. This is an excellent way to break the ice because it’s a subject that everyone has an opinion on and can easily lead to more interesting topics.

For example:

“Hey [name], what are your plans for this weekend?”


“It looks like a storm is coming through!” (if it’s true)


“How was your day?” (if you want to keep things brief)

Playoff things that are already happening around you at that moment.

When it comes to starting a conversation, it’s best to talk about something that’s happening around you at that moment. You can do this by asking them how their weekend was or what they were up to on Saturday night. If they mention an event—like a concert or sports game—ask them if they have tickets and then ask what the event will be like.

This is an easy way to keep things casual and comfortable without being too personal right away since everyone knows what happened on Friday night!

If your crush doesn’t respond, send a follow-up text that lets them know you’re not clingy or desperate for his/her attention, but that you just want to make sure everything is ok!

If your crush doesn’t respond, send a follow-up text that lets them know you’re not clingy or desperate for his/her attention, but that you just want to make sure everything is ok! Don’t be too persistent and don’t be too uninterested or serious. You need to strike the perfect balance between flirty and boring.


The best way to start a conversation with a crush over text is by being genuine and sincere. The next time you’re having trouble sending off an opening line, remember these tips: ask them a question, personalize your message, and use emojis! Let’s face it—we all want to know what our crushes are doing right now (and this is why we text at all hours of the night). So why not try using some of these techniques to spark up that old flame?

First Messages to Text Your Crush

  • You don’t know me and you don’t owe me anything. I’m just a guy who thinks you are absolutely amazing, intelligent, funny, and beautiful… and I would be the luckiest guy alive if you were to grace me with a message.


  • Hey [name]… It’s {}, I hope you’re having a good evening. Would you have time today to meet up? I’d like to talk to you in person. I hope to see you soon!


  • You’ve crushed me before, and I know that you’ll crush me again, but I’ll never get over you. After every heartbreak, after every end of something good, you are still there in my thoughts waiting for me to pick up the pieces. I’d rather have a broken heart a million times than not be with you at all.


  • I can’t stop thinking of you. Have you been thinking of me as well? I would love to get to know more about you. If you would like to go out and have coffee sometime, just let me know!


  • I see the sadness in your eyes. I hold those tears in my hand for on day you will let them go. A day you will smile, drenched in blue ocean sunlight, and forget the pain. But then suddenly I feel your body grow cold and white; the shadows whisper in my ear to let it be. And so we part forevermore, for you have found a new love that will never leave..


  • Your words are like a knife, a knife that stabs at my heart just right. It hurts to think you don’t feel the same, I feel as though I have lost all hope. I still love you, but this pain cuts deep and into my soul.


  • Sometimes all it takes is one person to make your life a little brighter. I hope you find that person to share all your wonderful moments with, someone who will bring the warmth of the sun into your life and make it shine. Have a great day!


  • You have such a pretty smile and the cutest of dimples. Your eyes sparkle like the stars and you have great hair haha! You make me laugh with your irresistible wit and cute ways, I can’t wait to see you again.


  • I get long emails from you at 2 am. I used to be worried, but now I think it’s just how you are. You need to talk. I’m always up for listening. You’re a good man and I wish the world was full of more people like you.


  • I’m so mad at you for breaking my heart. I’m going to need some time to patch it back together, but when I do, you will be the first person that gets ALL of me back.


  • I know you have a crush on me. I just wanted to reach out and tell you how much I appreciate it. I also want to tell you how much I like you. . . . . . Just as a friend, though!


  • I get butterflies in my stomach whenever I think about you. My heart starts to race and the excitement of wanting to be near you is overpowering. It’s a feeling I’ve never had before. I see you as the only one for me, and I can’t stop thinking about how beautiful your soul is.


  • No matter what anyone says, you will always be the one for me. Even though we’re from two different worlds I find myself attracted to you, so much that it hurts. To be completely honest; I loved you from the day we met and that feeling only gets stronger with time. I can only hope that someday we’ll be together.


  • Hey, Thank you for your sweet messages, that meant alot to me. You are a special friend. Keep being who you are because I like it..


  • I give up. I am about to give up. Falling in love all over again every time I get a text from you is too much for anyone to handle. You’ve won my heart over and there is nothing else I can do. I love your sense of humor, your kindness, and your cute smile. You can make me laugh even on the worst days and that’s no easy task! If you ever want my heart in your hands, then now it’s yours…


  • I can’t handle not talking to you. I miss your messages, your voice, your laughter and most of all your beautiful smile. I can’t believe how much we have grown in such a short amount of time. My heart belongs to you and there is nothing we can’t overcome. We can make this long-distance relationship work, just try me!


  • I’ve been thinking about you for quite a while now and I just had to tell you. You’re an awesome dude and it would be great to get to know you more. Let me know if you’re down…


  • I can’t imagine my life without you. I want to be everything to you and more, but I know that won’t be easy. You make me feel special, like I’m your whole world. Talking to you makes me smile when I don’t even feel like it anymore and know that I need to stop stressing. Your kindness and caring spirit is so rare these days; it’s hard not to cherish you. You have a way of making the worse days just melt away with your bright personality


  • I just wanted to tell you that if you need someone to talk to, I’m here for you. Just know that. Remember, I’ve been there, too. It’s hard having these feelings for someone when they don’t feel the same way. It hurts, but you have to keep going. You have so much life ahead of you and a lot of things to accomplish. I’m rooting for you! Love YOU!


  • I wish I could take away your pain. Your smile makes me happy, and seeing you cry breaks my heart…but hearing you laugh is what keeps my spirits up.


  • Hey, Babe. I’m really sorry about what happened and I hope you’re feeling better! I know you’re super busy with school, but if you need a hug or to vent, know that I’m here for you. You have no idea how much your friendship means to me, and how much it would mean to me if we could spend some time together soon. Please let me know what you’d like to do…


  • When you broke up with me I was devastated and thought there was no hope for a better future. Now, I see things a bit differently. I have resources that I can use to improve my life and make it worth living again. I will work hard on myself and make it happen.


  • I’m not sure what to write, but now I want you to know that you are on my mind and in my heart. You are an amazing person and beautiful inside and out. I will love you for all eternity!


  • I have no words. I really have no words that can describe how much I love you. I always feel this way, every single day, just not as strong. Because, to me that feeling is happiness, like the kind of happiness you wish could last forever, and staying in this state of happiness is a dream for me.


  • I understand you’ve been rejected a lot in the past because of your weight. I’m not here to add another rejection to your list, but to make you feel loved and cared for as a whole person. Text me so we can get to know each other better!


  • You’re so beautiful, don’t know how you do it. Don’t know how you always can make me smile, even when I’m feeling down. You take my heart and soul to a place I’ve never been before.


  • I’m unsure of what to say..all I’ve been able to think about is you. The idea of not being with you breaks my heart, and I just feel like we’re meant to be together. I haven’t ever felt this way about anyone, and it terrifies me because I know the possibility is there for this to end in a huge disappointment.


  • I have no idea why you don’t like me. You are cute, funny, and smart. I really want to get to know you better. Everyone that has met you knows how sweet you are. What is it about me that makes you feel this way? Can we please talk about it? I just want a chance to show you how wonderful I think you are.


  • you’re so lucky to be with me. I am glad you are no longer alone during this difficult time. I know it will take some time, but eventually things will fall into place. You have never been a quitter and I know that side of you will not return. Hang on my friend, I’m here for you if you need me.


  • I am so sorry to hear about your parent’s divorce. I can’t imagine what that must be like to go through. I am always here for you and hope you know that.


  • I’m really sorry to hear that you broke up with your girlfriend. I know what it’s like being left, it sucks! But you can’t let her control your every thought and feeling. You are young, handsome and full of life. There will be other girls who deserve you and don’t stress yourself taking a break from dating.


  • I can’t imagine a world without you in it. I think about you all the time and dream about the day we will finally be together forever. You mean everything to me and I hope one day you will realize how good we could be together. Until then I hope these simple words remind you that you are special to me. I Love You!


  • I give you my heart for safekeeping. I want you to have it, because without you it no longer beats. You are beautiful and amazing and cute. You are everything to me, better than I could ever be on my own.


  • I feel the same way. You have no idea how much your words mean to me, and I feel the exact same way. I just want everyone to know how amazing you are. I love you.


  • I’m so sorry that I don’t show you how much you mean to me. I wish I could tell you how off-the-charts cute you are, how much your eyes sparkle and make my heart flutter. You bring out the best in me and you’re always there when I need you.


  • I know the past few months have been hard and a lot of things happened but its time to forgive. Let bygones be bygones. Give her/him a call/text tell them how you feel.


  • I don’t know what I would do if I lost you. I could never be in a relationship with someone else because they couldn’t possibly compare to you. You are the most beautiful creature I know. Every day I fall more in love with you and know that I am completely and utterly in love with you.


  • You have been on my mind since we met yesterday. I can’t stop thinking about you, and I don’t want to. From your beautiful eyes, to your gentle laugh I’d love to get to know you better. Are you free this weekend?


  • I just want you to know that I am always here for you. And I’m not some random loser on the internet like you are trying to make me out to be, I’m a real person. And I care about you and your happiness, and when others say things to try to change that, all it does is make them sad. So don’t listen to them, I think your lovely 🙂 Call me anytime :).


  • I’m sorry you’re having a sad day. Please don’t feel like you have to always be strong. Sometimes it feels good to take a break from the world and let out your emotions. I know it’s scary, but know that I’m here for you.


  • .. I feel so bad for you. That’s awful. No one deserves to feel that way, but it sounds like you have a great group of friends and are smart about how you react to things. Awesome! Take care, keep in touch and remember – You’re amazing! 🙂


  • Hope all is well with you, consider this a friendly message from me to tell you I care about you!


  • I know I’m a little quiet, but you have no idea how much time I spend thinking about you. You’ve captured my heart in every way and I am finally beginning to see what its like to be happy again. Please give me a chance to show you just how special you are!


  • I’ve been thinking about you all day. And I can’t help but want to reach out and let you know. You seem so perfect and beautiful, I just want to be with you forever. You are my everything; my light my life, my one true love. I can’t wait to meet you face-to-face and hold your hand. You are my best friend; the one person who knows me better than anyone else ever could.


  • Hey, it is Peter. I’m sorry I hurt you. I just miss you so much and I don’t know what to do anymore. I just love you so much that I can’t even breathe properly now. I feel like a part of me is missing since you are not here with me. You should meet me soon whenever you want to talk to me.


  • I just want to say how much I admire your writing. There’s something about your words that I just don’t understand and never will. But I still love to read them regardless because they’re all so heart-melting.


  • I think of you as much as I can. Sometimes when I don’t know what to say, or when I need guidance, I think of you and your guidance. All I really wanted to say is that I really do care. You are an absolute inspiration!


  • When I was young they told me, “Don’t worry about the one you love, it’ll all work out and you will find him someday” When we are both old and gray we will look back at the trouble we’ve been through and say, “That’s what made our love so strong.”


  • How are you? I hope you had a nice day! I am having a relaxed Sunday, cooking, cleaning and planning my weeks work ahead. I thought I would say hi and send some sweet messages to your phone. If this sounds good to you tell me to text you at the number below, if not a simple no thanks will do!


  • Hey! I saw you today. You get more beautiful every time I see you. I was going to come up and say hi, but I thought it would be better to let you see me first. Then you got on the train and I forgot what I was going to say. LOL! But then we were sitting together and you asked me to play a game! And it was so much fun trying to beat your score! When the game was over I wanted nothing more than to kiss you but


  • I’d like to take this time to say that you are a very special person, and I have never in my life had anybody effect me as positively and deeply as you do. Your random act of kindness has brightened my day, it is something that I shall never forget. I hope that one day I can meet you and pay you back a hundred times over. Thank you so much, sir… 🙂


  • Hey G. Hmmm… well you seem like a cool guy, but it seems like you’re always busy when I see you around town. I just wanted to say “Hey” and let you know I’m around. Maybe we’ll be friends on Facebook sometime soon? Take it easy!


  • I know how it feels to think of someone you adore when they are not around. I was that way once too. But then I got the courage to tell you and now we are dating and I am so happy!


  • You are a sweet and amazing person. I am in awe of your smile and your eyes.


  • I’ve never had major crushes, but I think about having one just so I could experience how the person feels. I don’t know what would’ve happened with us if you weren’t so persistent, but I thank everything in the world for it. You really turned my life around and made me see what love really is.


  • I know that our first conversation was awkward. I just wanted to let you know that I have read our conversation in my mind everyday since then. To me it was perfect, we seemed to connect in a way that felt like we had known each other for years. You are so amazing, sweet and kind. I look forward to sharing more conversations with you.


  • I wish there was a word more powerful and impactful than the word I “Love”. I love you, I love you and yet it still isn’t enough. This is because I love you in such a deep way, with all my heart and soul. You are My Queen, My baby and My everything. You are the center of my world touching every aspect of my life.


  • You know I always try to make you laugh, even when we are fighting, but I feel like you don’t even care anymore. I care too much, you break my heart everyday by not responding to my messages. You say you love me, but I don’t feel loved when you give me the cold shoulder..


  • I know things are crazy right now, but it will all work out. I’m here for you through the ups and downs of life, through the tears and laughs. You aren’t alone and I won’t let you think you are. I know things aren’t easy but with me by your side it turns into something special, something to remember. So keep your head up and remember that I’m here for you no matter what, because I love you.


  • I miss you, too. It’s hard for me to let go sometimes because I’m scared to lose you. I don’t want that to happen, ever. Our lives are so busy right now and you deserve so much more than I can give you right now. I am so grateful for the time we get to spend together, but I know that I must live my life with no regrets and this means letting you go. We will always be friends and I hope that one day my life will


  • I don’t know what’s going on in your life, but I can only imagine it’s something hard. Just know that I’m here for you and even through the bad times I will always love you.


  • It’s hard to find great people in this world, but you truly are one of the rare good ones. I hope we can keep in touch for a long time and work together to stay happy and positive. I’m sending you lots of hugs!


  • I’m not sure if this is going to work, but I decided to give it a shot because you are so cool! Basically, I think you’re the prettiest girl I have ever seen and I wish we could chat more. You seem like you’re fun to be around and I’m sure you’re a pretty cool person too. Be safe on the roads and see ya soon 🙂


  • I think I fell in love with you the minute I saw your name flash across my cell phone screen. My heart was beating so fast and butterflies filled my stomach, I couldn’t help but smile at the sight of your beautiful face. Holding your hand for the first time, it was like a spark surging through my veins. It’s like magic!


  • All i wanted to say was that I really like you and I’ve been noticing the good things that they talk about you. Please give me a chance!


  • I can’t imagine a world without you. You are the air I breathe, and the sun in my sky. You bring so much happiness to my life that it is overflowing. When I look at you, I see my future and our family. You are my everything and I’ll love you forever and ever.


  • My dear, there’s something wrong with me. I don’t know why I feel the way I do about you. It’s like we were made for each other. My mind and body react to you in a way that I can’t understand. My heart beats faster when you’re close, my breath gets faster and my pulse races. You make my soul smile with everything about you; your eyes, your voice, your laugh, everything!


  • You’re just wonderful and I wish you the best in your life. I will always care about you, don’t let anyone or anything ever change that.


  • I miss you. I hate that we are so far away from one another. We haven’t even had a Skype date yet, but I sure do want to see your face!


  • You are a great person to know and be friends with. You have come into my life at the perfect moment and I really couldn’t be happier. Thanks for having the patience to talk to me and make me open up about myself. I never thought I could feel this way about someone else, but here we are!


  • I wish I could have this moment again. The moment I saw a photo of you posted under the caption “one of my new favorite people”. It was probably the most unexpected thing that had ever happened to me and it took me weeks to summon up the courage to message you offline. We connected so well, talking about everything imaginable until the break of dawn. I guess that’s the problem now. You’re my sunrise and my sunset, my sage and my guide. How do I express what your


  • I know that things aren’t easy for you right now, but I want to let you know that I am here to listen if you need a friend. I am always down to talk, even if it’s about random things. Even though we haven’t really talked much I really admire your character and your respectful nature. When times get tough and you feel like the whole world is against you, just remember there are people who do care about you and want to hear your story.


  • I hope you had fun last night. I stayed home and watched a movie. I hope your friends are treating you okay. I’m thinking about you!


  • I hate to think a day without me brought you to tears. I hate to think the thought of you and me not together, brought you so much pain. I pray I am the only one that can put a smile on your face because if anyone else did it would be a crime!


  • No one can quite understand what we have together maybe everyone can’t see I wish that you were here to love me hold me kiss me hug me and touch me. The way you made me feel, was the most amazing thing to ever happen to me. I don’t regret a single moment of it. You are all i have ever wanted and all i will ever need.


  • I’m sorry that this is so random, but I can’t stop thinking about you. I’m sure you get this all the time, but I just had to let you know that your amazing. Some people are just made for each other.


  • I get it. I’ve been in love too. My advice is to not over do it. Let him miss you a little bit. He’ll be craving your attention and that makes him want you more. Men aren’t complicated, but the can be frustrating at times. Just give him time and he’ll be yours before you know it!


  • I get it. Its hard to open yourself up and let someone in… to be completely vulnerable with someone else. It’s scary, you know? I’m here for you though. I want to be here for you. I know we just met but I feel like I have known you my whole life.


  • You are an amazing person, I can tell. You must be a great friend to have because you are so caring and understanding. I wish there was a way that you would see me in the same light and want to hang out with me instead of being just friends. I am really hoping that one day this will happen!


  • I would love to see you smile again. I know a lot has happened in your life but don’t let it hold you down. It’s nothing we can’t handle together. I know this is selfish for me to ask, but I want to show you how much you mean to me. Just give me a chance and I won’t disappoint you. Your happiness means the world to me, just be willing to let me prove it!


  • Before you do anything, let me say what I have to say. I know things are messed up in your life right now and I’ve never seen you this way and lord knows I have been around. But please don’t let things get bad. You have a lot working for you and there are people who will help if you just speak up. I think about you every day and night, even when things look hopeless and as bad as they can get it only makes me love you more!


  • I know I don’t know you. I don’t even know if you’ll respond to this, or if you’re even single anymore but I really needed to get this off my chest because I’m tired of pretending like no one notices or cares about me. You’re the only person that ever made me feel normal. You’re the only person who actually gave a


  • You poor thing – you’re hurt and you feel lousy. I would take all your pain away. Hold you close to me so you can rest easy and feel loved and protected. I wish there was something I could do to help alleviate your pain. I hope you have a nice day and that things get better soon.


  • I feel the weight of my situation like a ton of bricks. I want so badly to give you a piece of me and be closer to you, but I’m so scared of getting too close, because I know that if doesn’t work out it will hurt much worse. All I want is for you to see me as more than just a friend – a lover, a companion- and I want nothing more than for us to be together for eternity.


  • Hey so I noticed you were looking at me today and I just wanted to say thank you. It’s nice to know that you find me attractive. I hope you feel better soon. Stay strong and I hope to see you around 🙂 stay positive!


  • I’m so sorry to hear about losing your job. I wish there was something I could do to help, but I’m sure you’ll find something great again soon. I hope everything works out and that things get better for you. Just want you to know I’m here for you.

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